A Future 4 U

"Beware of the thoughts you keep, because everything in reality manifests from the mind." ~ Justin Palmer

Change comes about when you are tired of your current reality.  When you have a dream of what you want for your future but you believe it will never happen then that is what you get.  No change.  When you believe that it can happen then you will find a way to make it happen because that is your belief, your thoughts.

If I may I will share one of my experiences.  When I was growing up my mother was a negative person and nothing I did was right.  She led me to believe I could not do anything.  My dream was to become a Nurse and I kept that dream even though my mother told me I wouldn't be able to do that.  I kept that dream until my high school counselor called me in my senior year and told me to forget about college that I would be lucky to get a job at the local five and dime store (better known today as a dollar store).  Then I believed my mother was right so I gave up my dream.  That is until I was 25 and then I started to believe I could go to college.

I started at the University of Oklahoma to get an accounting degree.  I was afraid to take the core courses of English and History because that was what I had the hardest time with in high school.  I finally took my first English course and the professor gave me a C no matter what kind of paper I wrote.  I went to him and asked what I needed to do to make a better grade and his response was that  I would never get any better because C's were I made in High School.  Well there you go-I would never be able to get a degree.  Why?  Because I let other people tell me I COULD NOT do it.  I let myself believe them.

Well guess what,  10 years later at 35 I again decided I could get a degree.  I didn't let anybody tell me I couldn't.  I worked full time and went to school full time.  When it got hard and I felt like I was failing I would get help.  I graduated Suma Cum Laud with a Bachelor of Social work degree.  Why?  Because I believed I could do it and I was going to prove all those other people wrong.  Not only did I get a BSW degree I then went back to graduate school and got a Master of Arts degree.  Neither of these were easy but I needed them to do what I wanted to do, not to just say I had a degree.

I had to believe each and every day that I could do it and I had to work hard to do it.

Do you want change?  Do you believe?  Are you willing to put all the naysayers out of your mind and put belief in?  Are you ready to do your due diligence and work as hard as you need to, to make the change happen?  There are many people out here to help you.

Everything in reality manifest from the mind so as Henry Ford said:

"Whether you think you can or think you can't-you are right."

Diana Defibaugh, BSW MA

Lifestyle Coach

yourcoach@afuture4u.com

P.S.

DREAMS DO COME TRUE..
You are never given a wish without also being given the power to make it come true. The achievement of your goal is assured the moment you commit yourself to it. If you have the desire, you have the power to attain it. You can have anything you want in life if you will sacrifice everything else for it....Your dreams can come true if you pursue them. Where there's a will, there's a way.

Taking Action for Change Part Two:

Alright, we want change, we are going to take action to make that change but there is no time in the day.  So what do you do now.  Well you have to make time.  I'm sure when you had your first child and you worked full time you didn't know how on earth you would do everything,  Well you did it.  Maybe not as well as you wanted but you did.  So lets make some plans.

First you need to have a talk with you family and explain to them what you are going to do and why.  Let them know that you need their help and understanding and it will benefit you all in the long run.  Yes I know they may balk at first but everyone has to adjust and you have to hold firm.  No longer will you have the time to do it all.  So change or stagnate what will it be?  Wait till your kids are grown?  That my friend is just an excuse not to change.  

Alright here we go, write out everyone's chores and responsibilities and have them sign the contract.  Hey do the kids want to go to Disney world someday soon?  Does your husband/significant other want to take that big hunting/fishing trip?  Do you want that second honeymoon in Paris?  Then everyone has to do their part.  Or stay home, what will it be the easy way or the work together way?   

Now how am I going to fit in those extra things I need to do?  Here are just some suggestions to help show you a way.   While the children are eating get yourself ready for the day and listen to one of your CD's for self improvement or your new home business or whatever you are working towards changing.  Now, see how you fit one new thing in today and every day you can find a small place to fit another in. You can make a quick phone call using your Bluetooth while getting ready. As the kids come from their rooms to go to school have them  bring their dirty clothes to the laundry room.  

While you are cooking dinner you can listen in on a training call or do a coaching call.  One thing you must not do is work during dinner.  All of the family sits down to eat together. No Phones, no Tv's, no interruptions.  This will be vital so you can all talk, listen to each other, solve problems for the day and make plans for tomorrow.  You must schedule one evening, say Friday evening or Sunday afternoon, as family time and all go have some fun together. Same goes for you and your significant other a must have one date night a week.

This is how you start change.  You learn to multitask even more than you do now.  Take action today to make your tomorrow a success.   Get fired up-Take Action

Diana Defibaugh BSW, MA  
Lifestyle Coach